Psalms 45, pt9

Consider & Forget


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Finally, we return our attention to the last section of 45:10-17.

This latter part of the psalm is addressed to the royal bride, standing on the right hand of the royal bridegroom. God, who said to the Son, Thy throne is for ever and ever, says this to the church, which, upon the account of her espousals to the Son, he here calls his daughter.(MH)

Hearken, O daughter, and consider, and incline thine ear; forget also thine own people, and thy father’s house; 11 So shall the king greatly desire thy beauty: for he is thy Lord; and worship thou him. (The Spirit gives the standard instruction of a successful marriage: “Leave and Cleave.”)

Harken, consider, incline… Using several words, he show how serious, important and how difficult in following his counsel.

In part 8, we dealt with the first command, harken to His word. Search it out, study to show thyself approved unto God. Do not take any teaching for granted. Compare scripture with scripture. It does not matter how "respected" a teacher might be, "the whole facilities of the mind (body and spirit also) should be bent upon receiving holy teaching."

The church is on the broad road to destruction unless she once again seriously seeks out the King’s Commands in order to do them. Might the Lord open the eyes of both the “Christian religious leaders” who say they believe the Word of God, and the “professed Christians” who also claim to believe the Word of God. (See Ezek 8, &c.)

1 Kings 18:37 Hear me, O LORD, hear me, that this people may know that thou art the LORD God, and that thou hast turned their heart back again.

I will not take the room here to reproduce this telling article, though it may end up in an Examiner. “ Crisis in America’s Churches: Bible Knowledge at All-Time Low.” Read it at:

The ignorance of the Word of God in our day, from the pulpits to the pews, is astounding. Preachers preach to tickle the ears; they preach to the purse; they offer a gospel of no personal responsibility nor sacrifice; they offer a “gospel” that is non-offensive to the world nor to the “carnal Christian.” The Christ-less preaching of the last 100 years is producing God’s judgment of which he continually warned.

It was a common faith that held these States together, and that common faith is gone. Many of us easily remember that destructive lie: “Our strength is in our diversity.” The builders of the NOW intentionally promoted that lie in order to tear these united States apart, so they can rebuilt it after their own image. If I remember right, I did an article on that “diversity” error, saying that its goal was to divide this once united nation.

What Christian character these states still have is the only thing holding the states together. We see, however, that what little Christian character is left is being quickly removed, replaced with “state sanctioned” tumult which will require increased police/military action to control. (“State sanctioned”… Go back over the tumult of the past decade or longer, and you will find that the police have been told to “stand down,” and let the war take place.)

"Unite the Right" Organizer's Left-wing Roots Exposed by Leftist Publication

According to a report by the left-wing Southern Poverty Law Center (SPLC), Jason Kessler, the organizer behind the “Unite the Right” event in Charlottesville, Virginia, that turned violent was a member of the Occupy Wall Street movement and an Obama supporter. …

Some are now pointing to this revelation as evidence that Kessler is perhaps a “plant” and that his efforts have been part of a greater plan to “pit Americans against each other.”…

Organize both sides of a fight in order to accomplish an evil goal is not a new tactic. Banks have financed both sides of a fight “forever,” and they increase their power no matter who wins.

According to Breitbart, the Democrat governor of Virginia, rather than having the police protect those who had the assembly permit in Charlottesville, he held the police back, and then used them to force the confrontation. He then issued a statement that it was an unlawful assembly, though the “Unite the Right” had a permit. He refused to confront the “counter-demonstrators” though they wore masks (illegal in VA) and were the “attackers.” He then declared a state of emergency. Breitbart gives the sad account of what is in store for these once united States.

Back to God’s law concerning marriage, which is clearly presented in v. 10:

Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his nwife: and they shall be one flesh. (Mat 19:5)

The Spirit now gives instructions to the bride of Christ, the church. The command is followed by a promised result. Harken and forget; with the promised result, v. 11, So shall the king greatly desire thy beauty.

V. 10 is much like a bride standing before the preacher as he addresses the couple: She is to forget her people and her father’s house, and sever all relationships that would interfere with her proper relationship with her husband. (K-D)

V. 10. These words summon the bride to seriousness, thoughtfulness, and attention to a weighty charge: forget also thine own people, and thy father's house. As a wife should give up all that is dearest to her, and forsake even father and mother, and cleave to her husband, so the church is called on to put a comparatively low esteem on everything that has been most dear to her, and cleave unto Christ. She must come out from the world, its follies, iniquities and idolatries. (Plumer, Psalms P. 518.)

V. 10. Second; in order to have the Kings delight in us, we must Forget! Here is a strange requirement, and, my how we need some good sermons on forgetting.

This, because it is soon said, but not so soon done, he presseth in many words all to one purpose, Hearken, see, incline thine ear. Self-denial is a most difficult duty, and yet so necessary, that if it be not done we shall be undone.
Forget also thine own people, &c.] All evil opinions must be unlearned, and all evil practices abandoned, and all our love transferred and transfused upon Christ; or we cannot be a fit spouse for him. Christ’s spouse must {as #De 21:11-13?} shave her head, pare her nails, and bewail her father and mother, that is, her natural inbred evils and corruptions. (Trapp. A pagan madden could be brought into old Israel by marriage, if she left all behind, as illustrated in Deuteronomy.)

In order to please the bridegroom, the bride, the church, must forsake and forget anything that does not reflect His character. Her new character is a work of the Spirit of God, for only He can prepare the bride for her King:

Revelation 19:7 Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honour to him: for the marriage of the Lamb is come, and his wife hath made herself ready.8 And to her was granted that she should be arrayed in fine linen, clean and white: for the fine linen is the righteousness of saints.

To her it was granted by the Spirit of God: He alone can prepare the King’s bride, the church. (2 Cor 11:2, Col 1:22, Jude 1:24, Philip 2:13, Rev 21:2. The Spirit uses the proper teaching of all things to prepare the King’s bride.)

Her instructions are impossible without the Spirit working to give the will and the power to do His good pleasure.

Forget… Only the supernatural working of God’s spirit can produce a clear conscience, which is the foundation of forgetting the past, and forming new thought patterns:

Hebrews 10:22 Let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled from an evil conscience, and our bodies washed with pure water.

A guilty conscience has caused many shipwrecks. (1 Tim 1:19)

Philippians 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

How many marriages have dissolved, even among “Christians,” because the husband or wife could not forget either his or her past, though that past was under the blood? They looked back, and remembered the “good times” as singles, forgetting the reason they married. The desire to go back overwhelmed them, and back they went.

What are the instructions she must listen to if she will please the Bridegroom, the King in His beauty?

First, forget also thine own people. The church is called on to lay aside all other loves and desires. We are called on to cast aside all idols and anything that would hinder our faithfulness to our Lord.

Second, and thy father's house. This is the first law of marriage, Gem 2:24, Mt 19:5. The man and woman's responsibility to their parents stop when they get married, other than honor and respect. And, obviously, if the parents require care in their old age, the responsibility is on their children. That is, as long as the parents do not undermine the godly authority in the home.

Luke 14:26 If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple. (Matt 16:24)

Matthew 10:34 Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. 35 For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law.36 And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household. 37 He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.

The Lord deals with the issue of truth. The truth according to the Word of God is a sharp sword which divides asunder and even makes enemies of the closest family and fiends. Every sincere Christian who has tried to stand for the Christian truth has experienced the pain of that variance.

Forget those friends and acquaintances who hinder our serving the King with all of thy soul, and with all the strength. (Mk 12:30)

2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousnss? and what communion hath light with darkness?15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.

Philippians 3:8 Yea doubtless, and I count all things but loss for the excellency of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord: for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and do count them but dung, that I may win Christ,… 13 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,14 I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.

I have found that carnal family and friends will normally separate themselves from those who are trying to walk in truth. (3 Jn 1:4)

Consider these examples:

1) I heard of a family who took in the wife's aged mother. The family had been saved since they were married. They were now serving the Lord, but the mother despised the Lord. She continually undermined the husband's godly authority in the home, and the wife would not take her stand against her mother. The result was that the children picked up the grandmother's attitude and all of them went to the devil.

2) I personally know two situations where the young man had all the qualities sought by the young ladies and by their fathers, and the young men professed the truth, until they married. (The orthodox, reformed faith, e.g., predestination, election, &c.) After the marriage, the true nature of the husbands was leaned. The husbands are now more concerned about pleasing their mothers, (yes, their mothers) than in the truth they professed to believe in order to get the young lady of their dreams.

The godly authority of a godly husband and father in his home must be protected as he follows the truth, no matter how much guilt the enemy of their family and friends might heap upon him. Ones’ first responsibility, after marriage, is always to the truth, and then to the spouse and children under God. If we allow someone to undermine that authority, the blood of our own children will be on our hands.

Husbands and wives violate the marriage vows made to God when they allow parents to continue to dominate after they are united in marriage. When parents get better treatment than our spouse or children, something is desperately wrong.

Young people must take heed of that person “of interest.” How do they act with their mother or father? I have found that the major problem with young men is with their mothers, as the mothers refuse to “let them go.” We cannot count the number of marriages which have been destroyed because one (or both) spouse could not make the break from their parents.

Thus, if one brings anything which would hinder his faithful obedience into his relationship with the King, he has violated the vows made at his salvation. The illustration is as if one brings a love for another man or woman or parents over the spouse into the marriage relationship.

Third, forget the old ways of Adam.

“To renounce the world is not easy, but it must be done by all who are affianced to the Great King, for a divided heart he cannot endure; it would be misery to the beloved one as well as dishonour to her Lord.”

Part of the wedding ceremony is both parties renouncing all affections from the past, and keeping each for the other. Those who can be no benefit to our Christian walk must be forsaken:

A double minded man, he who attempts to cling to his carnal past, is unstable in all his ways. He cannot serve the King with all his being.

1 Corinthians 6:9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.11 And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.

Fourth, forget the past worldly pleasures, so we can move forward. We seem to forget the bondage, and remember the “good things” of the old lifestyle.

Numbers 11:4 And the mixt multitude that was among them fell a lusting: and the children of Israel also wept again, and said, Who shall give us flesh to eat? 5 We remember the fish, which we did eat in Egypt freely; the cucumbers, and the melons, and the leeks, and the onions, and the garlick:

Hebrews 11:13 These all died in faith, not having received the promises, but having seen them afar off, and were persuaded of them, and embraced them, and confessed that they were strangers and pilgrims on the earth.14 For they that say such things declare plainly that they seek a country.15 And truly, if they had been mindful of that country from whence they came out, they might have had opportunity to have returned. 24 By faith Moses, when he was come to years, refused to be called the son of Pharaoh’s daughter;25 Choosing rather to suffer affliction with the people of God, than to enjoy the pleasures of sin for a season;26 Esteeming the reproach of Christ greater riches than the treasures in Egypt: for he had respect unto the recompence of the reward.

“Remember the good times.” Doing so may well pull us back into them. Yes, many of them did bring pleasure for a season. But if we look back at those things, it will not be long before we will desire to return, and even go back to them.

Notice the warning is to not even do things which we associate with the past worldly pleasures. Maybe these things are okay in themselves, but if they remind of the past evil ways, they may well draw us back to those ways.

One of the problems with “Christian” rock is the memories the beat of that “music”; it issues the call to return to the lifestyle that went with that beat.

God instructs us here to forget those past things which brought worldly, sensual pleasure, and to avoid anything which would remind us of them. Moses forsook the riches and pleasures of Egypt for the God of Israel.

Fifth, forget the old manner of worship as well as the old manner of service to the world, flesh and the devil.

Hebrews 11:15 And truly, if they had been mindful of that country from whence they came out, they might have had opportunity to have returned to the old life of serving our own god.

Sixth, we must forget those things which are behind us before we can move ahead toward the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.

Philippians 3:13 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,14 I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.

Yes, we need to learn from them, the mistakes, failures and even the victories. But we cannot be "past oriented". We cannot build a future with our emphasis on the past nor on the present. Every action we do must be in terms of the fourth and fifth generation, Exodus 20:5, 6.

After the pastor resigned the church in Louisiana because of his drug problem (pain killers for sciatic nerve problem), the two of us associate pastors had a big push. We had a speaker in from a girl’s home, who was very charismatic -- he had had great and exciting meeting with us in the past. He told us that you “Cannot relive the past, but must move on.” His advice was excellent.

We must learn to retrain our thinking to be future oriented, and we are not talking about being RETIREMENT oriented.

Our fallen nature seeks to will load us down with the past. Past failures: "you can't do it any better now,” -- "You are a terrible, wicked sinner. God can't use you anymore." Even after we have confessed that sin and it is under the blood, we are many times confronted with a false convictions of sin. Convictions that have no answer from God's Word, are not from God. Godly conviction has Godly answers from His Word.

Then we have the problem pride over past victories: "Look how much you have done in the past. You have done your share, let someone else get in the battle." Or we may stay so engrossed the past victories that we live in them rather than press on for new ones:

Ecclesiastes 8:8 There is no man that hath power over the spirit to retain the spirit; neither hath he power in the day of death: and there is no discharge in that war; neither shall wickedness deliver those that are given to it.

Seventh, forget the past wrongs that others have done to us, lest bitterness take root, and defile many:

Hebrews 12:15 Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;

We see from Matt. 6:12-15 that our forgiveness is based on how well we forgive others. Our clear conscience before God is based on a clear conscience before men, Matt. 5:7, 39, 40; 6:12; 18:21-35; Mk. 11:25; Rom. 12:14-21.

If we mediate on the wrongs of others toward us, we will become like them, which is why we must meditate on the Word of God (think on these things, Philip 4:8):

Joshua 1:8 This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success.

Psalms 1:2 But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night.

While we are this close we need to pursue some things we should not forget:

1. Prov. 2:17-- God
2. Deut. 4:32-- His covenant
3. Ps. 78:7, 11-- His works
4. Ps. 103:2-- His benefits
5. Heb. 12:5; Ja. 1:25-- His word
6. Ps. 119:153; Hosea 4:6-- His law
7. Ps. 137:5-- His church
8. Judges 8:34; Ps. 78:42-- His past deliverance
9. Isa. 51:13-15-- His power to deliver

Though the Lord was warning of the soon coming destruction of Jerusalem in Luke 12:32, his advice is good for all time: “Remember Lot’s wife.” Looking back was her destruction.

We must also remember that prosperity often leads to forgetting God, Deut. 8:12-14; Ps. 44:17-20. Moreover, the trials of our faith should not lead to forgetting God. They should increase our faith, making one more determined to remember the Lord our God.

We will develop the promised results next time